ADHD Resources

"With his warm presence, wealth of knowledge, and sense of humor, Kai was an excellent guide along my transformational journey. He supported me through several personal and professional challenges to arrive in entirely new and wonderful places."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-10-21T19:16:36+00:00
"With his warm presence, wealth of knowledge, and sense of humor, Kai was an excellent guide along my transformational journey. He supported me through several personal and professional challenges to arrive in entirely new and wonderful places."
"Kai listened well, offered questions for my self-inquiry, offered appropriate techniques, and guided me to explore some weighty issues that I seemed to gloss over."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2020-01-18T02:49:52+00:00
"Kai listened well, offered questions for my self-inquiry, offered appropriate techniques, and guided me to explore some weighty issues that I seemed to gloss over."
"Kai was able to distill many different topics and reflect back to me in a well thought out and empathetic way what I am working towards and ways I can work on getting there."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:08:49+00:00
"Kai was able to distill many different topics and reflect back to me in a well thought out and empathetic way what I am working towards and ways I can work on getting there."
"Kai was an amazing support to me... I felt like he really helped me get at the crux of things that were limiting me... It was *really* profound!"
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:11:39+00:00
"Kai was an amazing support to me... I felt like he really helped me get at the crux of things that were limiting me... It was *really* profound!"
"Kai understands my voice and takes my multi dimensional thinking and weaves it into a coherent narrative that everyone can access. He is very good at clarifying end goals and thought processes on complex topics."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:56:45+00:00
"Kai understands my voice and takes my multi dimensional thinking and weaves it into a coherent narrative that everyone can access. He is very good at clarifying end goals and thought processes on complex topics."
"[Kai] could look at my situation from the outside and see things I couldn't. He helped me past my comfort zone to overcome perfectionism and make real progress."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:54:08+00:00
"[Kai] could look at my situation from the outside and see things I couldn't. He helped me past my comfort zone to overcome perfectionism and make real progress."
"Kai was fantastic. Very patient and accepting. I felt comfortable sharing my issues with him."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:35:00+00:00
"Kai was fantastic. Very patient and accepting. I felt comfortable sharing my issues with him."
"Kai offered new ways of looking at my concerns that freed me up to take action."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T00:49:15+00:00
"Kai offered new ways of looking at my concerns that freed me up to take action."
"I was feeling burnt out and uncertain of my direction. My time working with Kai helped me get clarity on what choices I was making that led to particular outcomes. With the guidance and tools Kai offered, I learned to trust my own insight more and to make more intentional decisions to consciously shape the path I wanted going forward."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:55:38+00:00
"I was feeling burnt out and uncertain of my direction. My time working with Kai helped me get clarity on what choices I was making that led to particular outcomes. With the guidance and tools Kai offered, I learned to trust my own insight more and to make more intentional decisions to consciously shape the path I wanted going forward."
"Kai worked with me to find my voice and develop my ability to speak authentically and courageously... I was able to advocate for myself more effectively both at work and in my personal relationships."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:19:26+00:00
"Kai worked with me to find my voice and develop my ability to speak authentically and courageously... I was able to advocate for myself more effectively both at work and in my personal relationships."
"I loved Kai's gentle, present guidance."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:46:19+00:00
"I loved Kai's gentle, present guidance."
"I feel like the work we have accomplished in these four months might have taken four years or more with any other [work] that I have experienced before."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:20:27+00:00
"I feel like the work we have accomplished in these four months might have taken four years or more with any other [work] that I have experienced before."
"I got a huge round of applause and for days afterwards I was approached repeatedly by people who had been deeply moved. A lot of what touched people came from what I added to the speech based on Kai's suggestions and I'm extremely grateful for his help."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:57:31+00:00
"I got a huge round of applause and for days afterwards I was approached repeatedly by people who had been deeply moved. A lot of what touched people came from what I added to the speech based on Kai's suggestions and I'm extremely grateful for his help."
"I always feel progress and have a plan when I leave the sessions with Kai. I also very much like his demeanor and approach."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:05:18+00:00
"I always feel progress and have a plan when I leave the sessions with Kai. I also very much like his demeanor and approach."
"Kai is brilliant. His skillful means are a tremendous gift - really helped me see complex processes."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:12:11+00:00
"Kai is brilliant. His skillful means are a tremendous gift - really helped me see complex processes."
"Kai was very attentive and it felt like he was able to hear my situation and distill down themes... quickly."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:06:09+00:00
"Kai was very attentive and it felt like he was able to hear my situation and distill down themes... quickly."
"Kai was very helpful for me... kind, encouraging and sympathetic."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:09:52+00:00
"Kai was very helpful for me... kind, encouraging and sympathetic."
"Kai helped me realize that change was possible in areas I thought were a permanent part of who I was."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:18:04+00:00
"Kai helped me realize that change was possible in areas I thought were a permanent part of who I was."
"I’m discovering a new way of being within myself and carrying myself in the world. I can sense that I’ve grown deeply, and I want to say a big THANK YOU to Kai."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:21:33+00:00
"I’m discovering a new way of being within myself and carrying myself in the world. I can sense that I’ve grown deeply, and I want to say a big THANK YOU to Kai."
"Immediate trust. [Kai] understood and addressed each of my concerns succinctly."
Kai Mantsch Executive Coaching
2019-09-26T01:38:08+00:00
"Immediate trust. [Kai] understood and addressed each of my concerns succinctly."
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Overview

I work with many leaders who experience the traits of ADHD, and I get a lot of requests for resources. Sadly, these requests are often not from the person themselves, but from a manager, partner or friend.

Those of us with ADHD traits generally try to go it alone. We often got the message as children, over and over, that we should just “get it together”, “stop being lazy” and, forlornly, that we had “so much potential”. We were seen as smart, and many of us were even told (in not so many words) that being smart was what made us valuable and loveable. This created a terrible bind: to ask for help, or to admit we didn’t know, would mean that we weren’t smart – and therefore not valuable or loveable.

For this reason it’s often best to start by offering written resources first, and here are a few I have found useful for clients or in my own journey.

Books

Adult ADHD: How To Succeed As A Hunter in a Farmer’s World

Thom Hartmann introduced one of the most powerful positive frames for the ADHD experience that I’ve heard so far. His invitation to a hunter/farmer way of seeing myself, a positive way of thinking about myself instead of a dour clinical diagnosis, was game changing. This book is a little dated, but deserves a place here for this reason alone.

 

The ADHD Effect on Marriage

This offers some perspective to the partner of someone with ADHD, which can be extremely helpful. For the person with ADHD traits it does a nice job of describing the experience in a way that had me feel very seen and understood. I even had a few ah-ha moments that helped me bring attention to things I didn’t realize I was doing and could then respond to and change.

 

You Mean I’m Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!: The Classic Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder

It is, in fact, a classic. While I find it a little heavy on the medication side, the authors describe the ADHD experience and talk about the shame cycle and defense against reality that are common hindrances. They also survey many alternative treatments and practices, as well as ways to adjust and respond to life more skillfully.

 

The Edison Gene

Thom Hartmann’s more recent book is aimed at rethinking how we work with children of ADHD but features more recent research and practical advice. It can be a bit scattered (surprise) as he wanders around into evolutionary history but is also a fascinating read.

 

Articles


Mindfulness Meditation Training for Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder in Adulthood: Current Empirical Support, Treatment Overview, and Future Directions

Mindfulness meditation has been the most absolutely transformative practice I have undertaken. Starting out by just sitting down on your own can be extremely challenging. I recommend starting with a movement mindfulness practice initially, such as qigong, and working towards a standing and then seated practice.

You can also jump-start yourself by diving full on into a multi-day silent meditation retreat. This often provides enough of a big experience that it’s clear what to work towards and why. And, of course, people with ADHD traits love things that are “full on”. 😉

A Natural Fix for A.D.H.D. – New York Times

While technically an opinion piece, it references a lot of key learnings (like the lack of dopamine receptors) and even references the Hunter/Farmer frame.

Could How You Sleep Be Linked to ADHD? – Wall Street Journal

People with ADHD traits have both a slow morning release of dopamine and cortisol and a slow evening release and response to melatonin. The described use of artificial sunlight lead me to the original research and experimenting with a SAD lamp in the morning to create a consistent wakeup time. The results have been significant for myself and anyone I’ve recommended it to so far – significantly more alertness in the morning and better mood throughout the day. I used a Happy Light and now they make a less expensive smaller one. (Affiliate links) Note: this use of a SAD light for people with bipolar symptoms can be detrimental.

Of course, real sunlight (when available) is also a great source of vitamin D – which is often chronically low (at least in the US) and a lack of which is linked to depression.

Study: Subcortical brain volume differences in participants with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder in children and adults: a cross-sectional mega-analysis – The Lancet

Brains are different! Sometimes it’s nice to know that actual studies reveal physical differences. Sometimes an MRI, a real picture of the brain’s differences, can help believe that we aren’t “making it up” after years of gaslighting by those around us.

Additude Magazine

Requires a mention because they are the most well known online source for ADHD conversation and information. It also does a lot of selling itself in every article, which can be a little frustrating and – it’s a carnival of distractions throughout. (Actually, this is sadly true of any online resource I link to here, so ADHD reader beware.)